Tag: parent

  • In denial about dementia

    We are all, in some way, in denial about dementia. The person living with it, their family, even society. We brush off early signs, explain them away, or avoid thinking about them altogether. Yet dementia remains, confronting us with fears we’d rather not face.

    In denial about dementia
  • Dementia and saunas

    After my dad’s dementia diagnosis, brain health became personal. A Finnish study found men who used saunas 4–7 times weekly had a 66% lower risk of dementia. What once felt like indulgence now feels like self-care and prevention – a small, joyful habit that might protect my future.

    Dementia and saunas
  • Admiral Nurses

    Admiral Nurses provide vital support for families affected by dementia, offering both practical advice and emotional care. Talking to one helped me understand my dad’s needs, navigate visits, and feel less alone.

    Admiral Nurses
  • What modern life does to our minds

    After camping in the calm of a Sussex meadow, returning to London felt like sensory overload. The noise, concrete and pollution make me wonder what modern life does to our brains. With my dad’s dementia in mind, I feel the urgency of protecting my own future health.

    What modern life does to our minds
  • Visiting my father with dementia

    “Your teeth look great!” my dad said – the first full sentence in a long time. It landed like a gift. Visiting him in the care home is never easy. Dementia has taken so much, but that small moment of clarity, of kindness, reminded me he’s still here, in glimpses.

    Visiting my father with dementia
  • A thank you to Wendy Mitchell for her work on dementia

    Wendy Mitchell’s writing offered a powerful, personal insight into life with dementia—illuminating what my father could never express. Her courage, honesty, and warmth helped me better understand his journey. This tribute reflects on what her work meant to me, and why her voice will continue to resonate far beyond her death.

    A thank you to Wendy Mitchell for her work on dementia
  • Assisted dying and dementia

    Assisted dying is back in the spotlight as UK legislation progresses. For people with dementia, it’s a deeply personal and often painful subject. This post explores how offering choice, with safeguards, could bring dignity and peace of mind – without devaluing life or rushing decisions. Compassion means respecting autonomy as well as vulnerability.

    Assisted dying and dementia
  • One step forward, two steps back

    Visiting my dad in the care home is a mix of quiet miracles and heartbreak. Dementia shifts constantly – progress one day, confusion the next. He said my name, something I haven’t heard in so long. I carry that small moment with me, even as everything else keeps slipping away.

    One step forward, two steps back
  • Father’s Day

    Father’s Day felt hollow without my dad at the table – he’s back in the care home after a fall and hospital stay. Watching other families with grandfathers stung. I miss his quiet wisdom, his help, his presence. Even everyday problems remind me of what we’ve lost, piece by piece.

    Father’s Day
  • Birthdays & guilt

    I reflect on feelings of guilt and inadequacy surrounding my father’s recent birthday celebration in a care home. I compare this guilt to “mum guilt” and discuss the pressures of balancing family, work, and self-care. Despite the weight of these emotions, I seek positivity and self-compassion in navigating dementia.

    Birthdays & guilt